Swinger Etiquette

Normally when we talk about our adventures with couples we are sure to be very discrete and not identify who we play with. There are plenty of people who aren't very accepting of our lifestyle and it wouldn't do us, or those we play with, to be "out" to the general public.

We're making an exception tonight.

There's nothing worse than a fake, or lying, couple. Everyone is at a different level of comfort with swinging. Some are more or less just voyeurs, others are soft swap, some just want to switch partners with no bi-girl play, some are bi couples (both M & F are bi), others hard swap, and everything in between. We respect everybody's comfort level and never want to push people to do anything they are uncomfortable with.

We happen to be a full swap couple with a very bi-female that doesn't need to be friends first. The pictures of us are real, and they accurately show what we look like and what we are about. And before we meet, we are very comfortable in providing g-rated face pictures.

We've been playing for a little over 2 years now, and we've learned to spot what makes a real couple. If you were to look at our profile in AFF, SLS or Swapper, you'll see we have five rules.

1) your girl must be BI- or have a thirst for bi-knowledge and play
2) you must be full swap, same room (fair-play rule!)
3) your girl must be willing to chat with me (the fem) via phone before planning to meet
4) you must be willing to exchange face pics prior to meeting and
5) you must be willing to meet "out" for dinner/drinks prior to play...NO, we are NOT "friends-first" (LOL) but if you're anything like us, you'll understand this request!

We lay these rules out not to be pushy or rude, but simply to let people know what we are all about. We find that couples that are real are very comfortable with these "rules" and understand the reasons for them.

Well......

We've been pretty active these past few weeks since we won't be able to play for six weeks after next Monday. We ended up breaking one of our rules and agreed to meet a couple without exchanging face pictures. In fact, we never saw a picture of the guy, since their profile only shows the girl. They had admitted that they were nervous but approached us about meeting and trying things out. It was last minute, but we all agreed to meet them for dinner/drinks. M talked to the girl very briefly today and they worked out the time and place and M asked that if there was any problem with them being able to make it, or finding us in the restaurant, to simply to dial her cell phone again.

We got to the restaurant 15 minutes prior to our scheduled time, as we tend to do. We hate being late. We sat in a booth where we could easily see the entrance. We meet people often at this place, and typically, we'll see a couple walk in, kind of looking around the place, they'll spot M (she has very distinctive hair) and we all smile and they join us. Pretty simple. Only once during a meet did we not immediately find each other, and the couple called our cell and we directed them to our table.

Well, tonight came and went without meeting this couple. We only saw one couple that could have potentially been our "date" but the girl looked nothing like their profile pictures. When M and the girl spoke, she described herself as 5'3", 110 with straight blonde hair, which basically matched their profile pictures. The girl of the couple that walked in was 5'3" and blonde, but a BBW, probably 160. We're fine with people of all sizes, as long as their pictures/descriptions match the real thing. This potential couple walked in, looked around and sat down at a table. We had basically stared at them (the waiters must think we are serious people watchers, lol) but while they looked at us over and over again, they never came over. We had our drinks, but no one else ever showed up or called.

After we finished our beers, and a full half hour after our planned time to meet this couple, we paid our bill and left. So, either they chickened out and just blew us off, or they showed up and didn't have the nerve to come over and say anything.

Advice for you newbies out there, people understand if you change your mind, can't go through with it, aren't attracted to the other couple, whatever. What couples won't tolerate is a blow off. We've met couples that decided after meeting us that they didn't want to play, for whatever reason. No explanations are needed. If you don't want to play, you just say that it was nice meeting you, but you're going to head home. No one should ever feel pressured to play just because you showed up for dinner. (Remember when we were in high school, just 'cuz a guy buys you dinner, you don't have to fuck him!)

In fact, a couple we've planned on meeting this Friday called today saying that work was going to conflict with our date. That's cool, no problem, and thanks for the notice. No harm no foul. And because they were considerate enough to give us advanced notice, we were able to set up plans with a single female, so things really worked out ok. Hopefully we'll meet that couple in September.

So, as we said up front, we're outing a couple tonight. This will hopefully be the only time that we will ever have to do this, but we do it as a service to all of you real couples out there.

Under AFF, the couple named curiousserious2 is not worth your time. They are either fake, or amazingly inconsiderate. If they weren't paid members, we'd report them to AFF as fake as well.

We've got plans with D&M tomorrow, a single F on Friday, and MAC on Saturday, so we expect to get back on a roll with some fun stories to talk about. In the meantime, M and I are going to have great sex tonight. Damn, I never even mentioned last nights great sex. Maybe I'll let M do that posting, since she pretty much directed the evening, lol.

In her black patent leather stripper boots....just a tease until the next posting!