Bareback Swinging, i.e. sex without a condom

We've heard the argument by others for using condoms with their playmates. We appreciate the argument (and do honor all requests), but these same people also engage in unprotected oral sex with others. So I (Danni) did a little research for you. Please read on...

From: AVERT

Oral Sex Is Not Considered Safe Sex

Studies show that oral sex CAN result in transmission of HIV and other STDs. HIV- the virus, which can cause AIDS, is carried in blood, breast milk, vaginal fluid or semen of someone with HIV, so you're at risk if you get any of these fluids in your bloodstream.

In fellatio (cock-sucking) and cunnilingus (pussy-licking) , there is risk of transmission for the person who is licking and/or sucking because infected pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum") fluid, semen or vaginal fluid and blood can get into the mouth. (This includes, but is not limited to, menstrual blood.) For the person who is being sucked or licked, there is a risk of infection because infected blood from a partner's bleeding gums or an open sore could come in contact with a scratch, cut, or sore on the penis or vagina and blood can get in the mouth. And, nearly every man experiences "pre-cum" whether he notices it or not.


Although the risk is smaller than anal or vaginal sex, HIV has been transmitted to receptive partners through fellatio and cunnilingus, even in cases when insertive partners didn't ejaculate ("cum").

Anilingus (ass-licking) carries a risk of transmission for the person who is licking or sucking the anus/ass-hole if there is exposure to infected blood, either through bloody fecal matter (bodily waste) or cuts/sores in the anal area. Anilingus carries a theoretical risk to the person who is being licked/sucked if infected blood in saliva comes in contact with anal/rectal lining.

If you're really concerned about becoming infected with a STD, you should use a condom when giving oral sex to a man or a dental dam (latex square) when giving oral sex to a woman. And, make sure that if the recepient is allergic to certain materials (usually latex), use a different type of condom, such as natural lambskin. And, in orgy situations, you MUST change condoms with every new person whether you've "cum" or not.


Herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, genital warts (HPV), intestinal parasites (amebiasis), and hepatitis A are examples of other STDs which can be transmitted during oral sex with an infected partner.

You can't pass on or become infected with an STD as a result of kissing. However, you could pass on cold sores (herpes simplex, HSV1) to your partner through kissing.

Any sexual activity, which can lead to bleeding or cuts/breaks in the lining of vagina or anus, is considered risky, including 'fisting' or certain S&M activities.

The only "safe sex" is sex that doesn’t allow any infected body fluid to enter your body – and doesn’t allow you to infect your partner, either. Activities that are safe include hugging, touch, massage, masturbation. Sex toys are fine, too – just put a condom over them to be truly "safe", and if you switch them from one person’s body to another’s – change the condom.

For couples that do require condoms to avoid STDs (as opposed to your birth control method), it's important to understand the other "risks" you might be subjecting yourself.

More importantly, if you're sexually active with more than one partner IN ANY WAY (including soft swap!), get tested regularly for all STDs. That's what we do...and, every two (2) months.

But in case you still feel the need to use a condom, here's how they're installed: